She Found Style

an attempt to discover my sense of style in one year and learning more about myself than I ever imagined along the way

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On a Side Note: What to do with that lone earring you are still holding onto


Just stumbled across this fabulous idea for a new necklace.  Unfortunately (or fortunately, I’m not sure which) I don’t lose my earrings so I’m off to track down some lost earrings that can be used instead.


The Count Down Begins

Just returned from our annual spring vacation.  We spent the last two weeks in Victoria, BC.  We swapped homes with a local and lived in an incredibly comfy, high-end home (with the most amazing kitchen) just across the street from the stunning Beacon Hill Park.  We visited a new park/playground almost everyday and Beacon Hill was our favorite.  I can’t bring myself to put my passport away just yet – I’m ready to go back!

On to style matters…

I’ve got just four more months to go on this challenge of mine.  It’s hard to believe that I’ve managed to stay committed to learning about style.  And while very difficult at times (there have been some personal growth moments for sure) this challenge has been very rewarding.  My concern with what I’m wearing seems to have lessened a bit because I feel better about what I know.  My confidence in front of the closet has increased.  And I’m having fun with the whole thing!  It’s taken a bit of time to get to the fun part.  Glad I finally made it.

While I feel like I’ve gotten everything I wanted out of this challenge, I still have four more months.  I’m trying to figure out what else there is to learn about.  What have I missed?  What still needs to be discovered?  How can I continue to be challenged?

I was hoping you might be able to help me.  Is there anything you’ve been wondering about?  Anything you still want to read up on?  If you have a moment, and something to say, would you please leave me a comment below?  I love hearing from you and I’d love a little nudge in a good direction…

Counting down the next four months!

It’s Official: Wear More Skirts and Dresses Today

On the few occasions that I do, and hopefully there will be more, here are a few reasons why I love wearing skirts and dresses:

  • Think Maria from West Side Story, I Feel Pretty.  Right?!  Witty, bright and charming.  Somehow I doubt that’s translated to the rest of the world but it is what’s inside that counts, right?
  • I just discovered a sports saying that goes like this, “Look good, feel good, play good.”  This happens when I dress up my look with a skirt or dress.  I think it’s gonna be my new motto.
  • Since I rarely wear a skirt or dress (I’m working like crazy to change this) right now it’s a total challenge to make a skirt work.  Challenge is difficult.  Difficult things help me grow as a person.  Even though it’s just a silly piece of fabric, it’s become yet another vehicle in self-discovery.  A little ridiculous, a little awesome.

Don’t you agree that there is something special about wearing a skirt or dress?  I’m not totally in left field here, am I?  In fact, I’m beginning to wonder if the world could be changed a bit with a few less pairs of pants in it.  Well that and a whole lot more love (but that’s another blog post, ya think?)

Why do you like wearing skirts or dresses?

How to Spring Clean Your Closet and Why You Should

I ran into this excellent little post about style and spring-cleaning your closet.  Not only does the writer offer suggestions on how to clean your closet, she offers a great perspective on why you should regularly re-visit your wardrobe:

I think my wardrobe should be a reflection of my style and my aesthetic judgment. Every item that I don’t really like or that just doesn’t look good on me, is tainting that reflection a little bit…

Things in excess, even seemingly trivial ones like clothes, are burdensome and stress us out. This effect is amplified for people who are into fashion and see it as a means of self-expression: for us a closet filled with clothes that aren’t our style is literally restraining our ability to express ourselves. So, less is more. Or more is more. It’s fine if your closet is close to bursting, as long as everything in there reflects your style. –Anushka Rees

I like that the writer is merging practicality (cleaning out spaces that quickly get filled with excess) with personal growth (taking a moment to re-examine where you are and who you are – it’s an evolving process).

Maybe this week I’ll take some time to go through my closet and purge the items that don’t really reflect me.  Who knows what the process might teach me.  Any one care to join me?  I’d love to hear about (by the way, I love hearing from you).

I’m Not Done Yet: My Skirt Dilemma

Just another photo of me NOT wearing a skirt

Over dinner the other night, I was discussing this blog with my husband.  I was counting the months I’ve been working on this (6) and the number of months I have to go (6) and feeling like where do I go from here and I’m really happy with where I am at right now so what do I do now and where is the challenge?  I may not be hitting the current trend (who cares) but when I get dressed up to go out to dinner with my husband, it’s no longer traumatic for me!  I leave the house feeling put together and confident and beautiful.  The whole point of my blog challenge!

But Mike gave me a look that said, you aren’t done yet missy.  And I gave him a look back that said, what do you mean?

Oh, right.  My skirt dilemma.  I’ve been dragging my feet on this one because I can barely explain it myself.

I love skirts.  They look so cute on people.  The few times I wear a skirt they look pretty cute on me.  But I rarely wear them even though I’d like to wear them more.  So what’s the problem?

It’s almost like a math problem that I just can’t solve.  Skirts have a few more parts to the equation than other looks and I have a hard time wrapping my mind around how to make them work.

Let’s begin.  You have your skirt, you’ll need a shirt and a belt, I’m on the Oregon Coast so add a sweater and a jacket, don’t forget tights and shoes and maybe a pair of socks to go over my tights if it is particularly cold that day.  Are you still with me?  With skirts you have to consider proportion – more math!  The skirt can’t be too long or too poofy.  The belt has to work and the shirt and sweater need to be the right length – not too long or too bulky.  Don’t get me started on jackets and shoes.  Throw in the fact that I’m not even 5′ and now every skirt is basically too long or too poofy. And why don’t we just throw in the fact that I am a true perfectionist – if I can’t do it right the first time, I’m not doing it!

Does this count as a true dilemma to you or is it just me?

Where to even begin?!  I think I’ll start by collecting a few skirt looks I really like, I’ll gather information on proportion and then I’ll start trying to copy some looks.  How does that sound?

How do you tackle challenges?  I could use a little inspiration right now!



A Visit to the Library

A book was recently recommended and is currently on it’s way to me now (thanks Julia and Paperback Swap!).  D.V. by Diana Vreeland.  I’ll be sure to report back soon!

Sorry But I Won’t Be Solving the World’s Problems Today

As I mentioned on Monday, I’m supposed to be taking a break from over-thinking and over-analyzing this little project of mine.  I’m taking it easy and just playing around with my clothes.  I won’t be trying to figure anything out or solving the world’s problems.  That’s the idea at least…

What do you do when you need to take a mental break?  And does it actually work for you?

The Over-Thinking Stops Here (just for the week…)

A friend once mentioned in passing that I tend to over-think things.  When she said that, I felt offended.  I’ve come to learn that feeling offended is usually a clear sign that truth is making itself known to me.  So now when I get myself all in a tizzy over whatever, I know to stop and ask around if I’m over-thinking something yet again.

Which is where I find myself now.  Over-thinking all sorts of She Found Style related things.  So.  I’m gonna shelve those thoughts for now and just have fun this week.

A challenge has been presented by my lovely sister.  Pick out two staples – a white t-shirt and some black jeans.  Wear them everyday BUT each day wear the look differently by using jackets and scarves and necklaces and earrings and shoes and whatever!  Fun, right?  I’ll post a collection of this week’s outfits at the end of the week.

Wanna stop over-thinking things and join me in the fun?

My Top 5 Style Lessons Learned in 2011

I started my style adventure in the last part of 2011 but I managed to squeeze in a handful of lessons learned (It wasn’t really hard, I have SOOOO much to learn).

  1. It’s all about the accessories.
  2. Dressing up improves my sense of self.
  3. It’s if not fun, it’s not worth it.
  4. The dressing room is not my enemy.
  5. Stepping out of my comfort zone is life-changing.

Let me detail those for ya:

  1. Necklaces, earrings, bracelets, scarves, belts, headbands.  Just like a sprig of mint completes an entree by adding color, texture and taste so the added touch of a necklace, pair of earrings or belt completes a look, tying everything together.
  2. I used to dress up so others would think well of me.  Now I dress up because of how well I think of myself.  Yes, sweatpants are comfortable and UGG’s are convenient but they don’t exactly make me feel productive.  When I first began this challenge, I lived in sneakers, tank tops and hoodies.  I don’t anymore.
  3. Fun is essential.  And for me, any method of learning can be enjoyable (sooner or later).  However, sometimes it’s hard to head out the door in an outfit I think is fun because someone else might think it’s weird.  But I’ve learned that style is an outward expression of who I am inside.  I’ve got a handful of personality traits that people don’t care for and I’m okay with that, right?  So should it be with the items I put on.  It’s who I am and I wear them for me.  Simple as that.  (Waaaayyyy easier said than done).
  4. Oh Dressing Room, how I used to despise you.  Taking clothes off just to put them back on just to take them off again rooms too warm and making me sweaty clothes that are too big because I am too short clothes that are too small because I am in Forever 21 sales employees hovering outside my door trying to help price tags with numbers too high.  But that has all changed.  The dressing room is where I can experiment and observe and learn.  Before hitting up a dressing room?  Eat well, drink lots of water and bring a good attitude.  This is supposed to be fun!
  5. And the biggest lesson in all of this so far?  The personal growth I’ve experienced in pushing myself out of my comfort zone.  I have taken chances, admitted that I didn’t know everything (that’s actually a big one for me), and I’ve asked myself to not give up no matter how silly this whole challenge has seemed.  Whether the motivation is style or world peace, stepping outside of my comfort zone offers challenge and personal growth that I’m proud of.

I’ve got a growing list of things still to learn but looking back only increases my excitement to keep learning.  Here’s to the next year of my style adventure!

Nice to See You Monday

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The last few days I’ve finally gotten around to contemplating last year.  I started this blog a few months ago and already I’ve done so much. But there is still much more to do!  I haven’t finalized goals for 2012 so I’ll just start with this week (baby steps, it’s all about baby steps).

Must Do:

  • A happy dance.  First things first, right?  Yesterday, we enjoyed the first day of 2012 outside!  On our bikes.  At the beach.  Happy children.  Happy me.  No rain.  No gloom.  No snow.  Nothing but glorious sun.  THAT is the way to start things off.
  • Love, love, love.  It may be a bit overstated but every day I come closer to the realization that the beautiful stylish me (that I’m trying so hard to figure out) is firmly grounded in who I am.  And who I strive to be is a kind and compassionate woman.  Everything else is second.
  • Start officially planning my upcoming San Diego trip for the end of the month.  More happy dancing over here right now at this very second. What do I want to do when I get there?  Sit in the sun and eat.  That’s it.  My two favorite things.
  • Started a new book, How to Be a Hepburn in a Hilton World.  Already a bit turned off by the author’s overuse of the word “stupid” in the introduction.  But.  Gonna give this a chance.

Maybe Won’t:

  • Or…  I usually know in the first few pages if a book is worth reading.  I just might take it back.
  • Compare myself to others and if I do I’ll try to stop.  Hopefully practice makes perfect here because I find myself with ample opportunity to practice this one!
  • Make my own 2012 calendar.  I’m so cheap that every year I swear I’m gonna make my own supercool calendar instead of paying $30 for one.  And every year I don’t.  Instead I end up with a cheesy free calendar in late February with pictures of waterfalls on it.  This is the direction I’ll be going this year.  I think.

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