She Found Style

an attempt to discover my sense of style in one year and learning more about myself than I ever imagined along the way

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Let me clarify things a bit…

I love honest people.  I love people that tell you, “Nope, you are wrong”.  I don’t hear it enough (and I’m certain it should be said more often to me) so when someone has the courage to tell me I’m wrong, I just want to hug them.  Well, I want to hug them after the initial shock of being told I’m wrong wears off.

Mike told me recently that he didn’t like my last few posts.  He didn’t feel they were accurate.  He felt like I communicated that nothing about me had changed.  Like my outward appearance is still the same as when I started and that just isn’t true.  As if my original goal of learning about style and applying it to my every day, failed.

As I went about making dinner I thought over what he said and I think he is right.  I made it sound like I didn’t learn anything about fashion and style.  That I had some inner growth and that was it.  Which is okay because inner growth is more important than looking good when you leave the house, right?

I wasn’t being completely honest.  And for a good reason (if I do say so myself).  What if I told you that I did learn how to dress better?  What if I wrote down how I’ve totally started accessorizing?  And I have a few more pairs of shoes to my name so now I can wear the appropriate shoes at any given time?  What if I told you I have more than one belt now?  What if I admitted that I feel so much better when I leave the house because I like the way I look and I didn’t agonize over it for hours?

And what if you took one look at me and said, “Really?  That look still needs work, my friend.”

So I subconsciously figured I’d beat you to the punch and just record that I didn’t really learn that much but my heart is in a better place, so there.

Silly, yes.  But true.

So let me clarify things a bit.  Yes, a lot of inner growth happened.  And I’m beyond grateful for the changes that have taken place inside.  But I’ve done a lot of outward changing too.  Nail polish, necklaces, hats, shoes, straight leg jeans, and jackets.  And. I. Love. It.

Watching myself relax when it comes to all things wardrobe related has kept me motivated to continue on this style education.  Having fun with clothing and feeling more confident has added an element to my day that I didn’t expect.  The preoccupation is no longer on myself, but has turned into an enjoyment of my life.


No More Regrets, I’ve Got My Red Blazer

Back in November I picked up a vintage red blazer only to return it – I doubted that I was able to pull of such a bright color. Even though I liked the blazer, I just couldn’t bring myself to wear it.

Fast forward five months.  Looking through today’s images, I realized that I was wearing a red jacket.  Without even considering whether I could or not.  When I pulled it out of the closet it just seemed like a natural extension of who I am.

Well…almost.  Now that I think about it I may have had a hesitation or two when putting this red jacket on.  Is it too bright?  Are the buttons too large? BUT I put it on anyway.  I thought, “what the heck I’ll just give it a try.”

And that’s what matters.  The just going for it.  The disregard of whether I’m doing it “right” or not.

How’s that for a little style improvement?

Tall Green Socks aka Leg Accessories

Notice just one small thing here.  My legs now have their own accessories.  THIS is a definite step in the right direction.  For the first time my friends, I am considering the details.  Green socks that peek out over my boots.  Could it be any easier or more fun?



Finding That Unique Style

Two weeks ago I was in San Diego visiting a friend.  I traveled all over the city – trying out all things San Diego.  It wasn’t until my last day of the trip, while I was enjoying my last In-n-Out burger, that I saw a person with a very unique style.  And it wasn’t until I saw her that I realized I hadn’t seen anyone with unique look on my entire week-long trip!  Everywhere I went, everyone looked the same.  Which made me realize that I blend in just as much as everyone else which made me feel impatient that this style journey hasn’t moved any faster which made me want to quit this whole thing.  (Can you hear me stamp my foot for added effect?)

But then I took a week off (which turned into to two) to breathe and not worry about it.  A friend once told me to, “Get over yourself Betsy”, (best advice ever).  So that’s what I’ve been doing.

But now I’m back at it.  I think the topic has become one of what makes us unique?  And does everyone desire a unique outward appearance?  Or is it just some people who want to stand out visually?  Is it superficial or silly to want this?  And what if I just don’t know how to add that unique touch but really want to?  Well, now you know why I need to take a break from thinking every once in awhile.  Phew.

This week I’m hoping to shed some light on my latest round of questions.  I don’t have any answers – but if you do, please share!

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Nice to See You Monday

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The last few days I’ve finally gotten around to contemplating last year.  I started this blog a few months ago and already I’ve done so much. But there is still much more to do!  I haven’t finalized goals for 2012 so I’ll just start with this week (baby steps, it’s all about baby steps).

Must Do:

  • A happy dance.  First things first, right?  Yesterday, we enjoyed the first day of 2012 outside!  On our bikes.  At the beach.  Happy children.  Happy me.  No rain.  No gloom.  No snow.  Nothing but glorious sun.  THAT is the way to start things off.
  • Love, love, love.  It may be a bit overstated but every day I come closer to the realization that the beautiful stylish me (that I’m trying so hard to figure out) is firmly grounded in who I am.  And who I strive to be is a kind and compassionate woman.  Everything else is second.
  • Start officially planning my upcoming San Diego trip for the end of the month.  More happy dancing over here right now at this very second. What do I want to do when I get there?  Sit in the sun and eat.  That’s it.  My two favorite things.
  • Started a new book, How to Be a Hepburn in a Hilton World.  Already a bit turned off by the author’s overuse of the word “stupid” in the introduction.  But.  Gonna give this a chance.

Maybe Won’t:

  • Or…  I usually know in the first few pages if a book is worth reading.  I just might take it back.
  • Compare myself to others and if I do I’ll try to stop.  Hopefully practice makes perfect here because I find myself with ample opportunity to practice this one!
  • Make my own 2012 calendar.  I’m so cheap that every year I swear I’m gonna make my own supercool calendar instead of paying $30 for one.  And every year I don’t.  Instead I end up with a cheesy free calendar in late February with pictures of waterfalls on it.  This is the direction I’ll be going this year.  I think.

Monday, You’ve Been Good to Me

Lovin’ it:

  • A garage door that goes UP and DOWN without me having to do a thing.  Well, I have to do one thing.  Sit in my cozy warm car and wait until the garage door goes up and then down, all by itself.  Oh, and give my husband lots of kisses for fixing the broken door.
  • Lush.  I haven’t even tried the skin care stuff and I’m already in love with the product, the company and the Portland shop (thank you employees for entertaining my girls with all the froofy and fun stuff you have).  They’ve really got it going on.  I just hope my skin is as happy as my conscience is!
  • Standard Process Purification Program.  Cleaning the body out this month and boy does it feels good.
  • Roasted garlic and olive oil.  Yum.  Y-U-M.  Can’t stop thinking about it.
  • Wearing nothing but jeans and sweatshirts and cowboy boots this week.  It’s all about pure comfort while the body gets to purifying.

Not so much:

  • Below freezing weather.  Nah.  It’s just not my thing.
  • Trading my morning cup of coffee for a cup of hot water.  It’s just not the same.
  • Staying overnight at my buddy’s house with the super-cozy guest bed.  Well, that was actually the great part.  But not being able to fall asleep because of the 5 and 3-year-old laying next to me who I knew had a lot to drink before going to sleep on this very fine bed that did not have a mattress cover protecting it and ohmygoodness would I be able to scoop them out of bed and onto the toilet fast enough if they did in fact wet the bed?  They didn’t wet the bed.

Nice to See You Monday

Me, Kaia, Elliot and Auntie

Lovin’ it:

  • Running a full three miles in yesterday’s 5k WITHOUT STOPPING! Yee-haw, watch out for me!
  • Sun is out.  Yep, you heard me.  On the Oregon Coast in November, I am seeing sun.
  • Visited CARTM this weekend. Wow, wow and wow. Totally inspired to keep working on becoming a zero waste family.
  • Gonna wear one thing each day this week that I haven’t worn in 2 months or more.  I’m sure everyone is tired of seeing my awesome white shirt every single day.

Not so much:

  • Meal-planning.  I’m so over it.  Can we just eat cereal for every meal instead?
  • Grocery stores. Stop being so un-inspirational.
  • The broken garage door.  Isn’t the whole point of parking in the garage the fact that you don’t have to get out of the car until you are warm and cozy inside?  Getting out of the car to open the garage door before driving inside?  Gotta get that fixed.
  • 11-minute miles.  Is that actually running?  Goal? 9 minute mile please.

It’s Monday and I Have a To-Do List

This week:


  • Wear Grandma’s jewelry more often
  • Write Pandora a “thank you” card for starting up their Holiday Music.  The days just got that much better!
  • A celebration dance – I got the garage cleaned out enough to fit my car inside.  Seriously?  This was one of my goals for the year.  I’m totally kickin’ my heels right now.
  • Get ready to give lots of love – my parents will be here today!


  • Wait so long before walking down to the beach again.  Three weeks is too long to go without a little sand in my shoes.
  • Ever, ever eat an entire box of Twizzlers again.  It’s hard for me to believe I did that too.  And it’s my forehead and chin that took the beating.  Nearly ran out of concealer this week.
  • Stay inside just because it’s 30 degrees.  Sunny weather is going to get more and more rare.  Bundle up and get out there!
  • Gloat just because my Christmas shopping is done.  {Ha, ha my Christmas shopping is done, I can relax now}.  Oops, did I just do that?

It’s Monday and I Have a To-Do List

This week:



  • Watch any more Grey’s Anatomy or Private Practice.  Crying over people that don’t ACTUALLY EXIST?  Weird and a total waste of time, missy.
  • Listen to Dance Cardio Radio station on Pandora when the girls are in the room.  It’s hard to explain to toddlers what “hot and dangerous” means…  Saying that Ke$ha is talking about kitchen safety is only going to last for so long.
  • Loose my cool.  The girls are giving me a run for my money these days.  Are there any “Keep calm, and don’t give the children away” posters?

It’s Monday and I Have a To-Do List

This week:


  • Paint my fingernails at least once this week – purple would be fun!
  • Drink 3 liters of water every day – does wonders for my energy.
  • Have a bunch of hankies ready for Grey’s Anatomy and Private Practice – there’s gonna be some tears ’round here on Thursday.
  • Wear some colored tights – it’s time to push my comfort level.


  • Jump up and down for the camera – it only makes for some bizarre feet pictures.  Good idea, gone really bad.
  • Forget to take my St. Johns Wort every day this week – that gray weather is NOT going to get me down.
  • Let fear stop me.  Don’t say, “I can’t” because I can.  Lose that “cool” card and just give it all I’ve got.

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