She Found Style

an attempt to discover my sense of style in one year and learning more about myself than I ever imagined along the way

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He Said, She Said: Sven Goran Erikkson

The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure. – Sven Goran Erikkson

I’ve had fear stop me in many places in my life.  If I don’t think I’ll succeed, then I just won’t do it.  Fear of failing.  You know what’s funny about that?  If I don’t try something new, I fail.  If I do try something new, I might fail but there’s a very good chance that won’t.

Starting this style challenge has taught me so much more than how to pick out an outfit at the Gap.  So. Much. More.

I suppose I still fear new or hard things but I’m much more willing to try them out anyway.  And just based on the action of trying something new, I’ve succeeded already.

Isn’t that so cool?

What are you fearing right now?  What are you too scared to try, to admit, to want?


What’s Your Excuse?

I’ve got a great book I thumb through every now and then, Life is a Verb by Patti Digh.  It’s an encouraging book about living intentionally.  Last night I came across a chapter about excuses.  Excuses are what kept me from thinking about style for so long.  I won’t be able to figure it out.  Trying new looks will be embarrassing.  I don’t have enough money to buy the right things.  I think you get it, right?

Patti shares a story about going to a comics convention with her young daughter Emma. Towards the end of their visit, Emma finally gathered enough courage to show her portfolio to some of the artists.  At one point, Emma motioned to an illustration and said, “That’s not really a good one.”  To which the artist she was speaking with said, “If you don’t like something, take it out of your portfolio.  You don’t want to have anything in here that you need to make excuses for.  You want to be proud of everything you put in front of people.”

I join with Patti in asking myself, “What in my portfolio (house, life, brain, relationships, wardrobe) should I keep?  What should I sell? What should I toss?  What have I been trying desperately to hide? What do I consistently make excuses for?”

Excuses can infiltrate my life and become a habit hard to shake.  And that’s one reason I’ve been so grateful for this style challenge.  In this instance of my life, I’m confronting and overcoming my excuses. And I’m becoming proud of what I present to people.

The trick is not how much pain you feel but how much joy you feel.  Any idiot can feel pain. Life is full of excuses to feel pain, excuses not to live, excuses, excuses, excuses. -Erica Jong

Wearing Skirts with Purpose?

You want some super-awesome perspective on style?  {please say yes}  Then head on over to my buddy Tonia’s blog right now.  I love her take on wearing dresses and skirts.  I love the way a simple skirt has had such a profound affect on her.  And now I can’t stop thinking along these lines as well.  What do you think?

He Said, She Said: Kristine or Polly

I’d love to introduce you to Kirstine, a blogger who inspires me daily with her “simple, colorful, cute and quirky” style.  I love the way Kristine mixes patterns and colors in a totally carefree manner.  Here’s what she had to say about her unique style:
I honestly just love the way I feel when I am wearing an outfit that represents ‘me’. So I suppose that I am motivated to feel that sense of comfort and pride in my ensemble. I’ve created my style by gathering clothes and accessories that really stand out to me – whether through silhouette, color, or print. I like unexpected color combinations and clashing patterns quite a bit! I love looking at real people, seeing what clothes they collect, and how they piece everything together with a practical income.

He Said, She Said: Kaelah Bee

Looking for unique folks brought me right over to Kaelah’s blog, Little Chief Honeybee.  I love her loud, statement look.  Nothing I could or would try myself but the fun Kaelah has with clothes is something I find attractive about her.

…I have only recently recognized my love for ugly shoes in the past year. It’s kind of thrilling to wear something so bizarre and out there, all the while balancing it with a feminine frock and ruffled cardigan. I’m a huge fan of contradicting juxtaposition and maybe that’s why I’ve chosen to be so heavily modified (tattoos, piercings) while wearing the most feminine dress I can find. I see a challenge in making ugly things work in every day life. There are some stares and snickers along the way, but it’s liberating!

Every time I see a new, crazy outfit post I think to myself, “I’ve got to meet that girl! I bet she’d be a blast.” I am inspired by her enjoyment of getting dressed and surprising her viewers. Kaelah uses her look to convey a unique, fun, and friendly personality.  Nicely done!

*Huge thanks, Kaelah, for participating in my conversation about what it means to be unique.

He Said, She Said: Julia Barbee

I know a funny, slightly eccentric, lovely woman.  She is odd in all the right ways.  Everyone I know adores her.  I especially love her laugh.

I asked her about her sense of style (she is a clothing designer so she should have some sense, right?!).  I loved her response:

I came up with a new statement about my fashion line, and I think it reflects my way of dressing pretty well.

My way of creating is a curatorial practice. I spend most of my time looking, honing my eye, examining nature, technology, people, objects; I collect form, texture, line, color and put together puzzles based on my own frameworks, from the objects I find.

In addition I’d say I keep my wardrobe pretty basic and add one or two accessories to draw the eye to different areas. Sometimes precisely to the place I’m feeling most vulnerable about that day (it’s a great way to get a compliment on something you’re feeling insecure about!).

I just love that last part!  Julia’s honesty is something I appreciate about her most.

*The reason why I didn’t link to Julia’s clothing line.  Good luck, Julia on your new and exciting design adventures!  Like Julia on her Facebook page.

Despite the Objections of my Friends and Family

So, I’m a little stumped you know?  Trying to figure out how to create a unique look?  I decided last night that I was getting on my nerves over-thinking the whole process.  I think I may have mentioned before how I can be silly like that.

What it comes down to, I think, is that I just need a little inspiration.  Real inspiration.  So I’ve found some people that are doing something I admire and asking for their point of view.  As my father-in-law likes to say, “There’s no sense in trying to re-invent the wheel.”  I’ve asked the question, “How does one go about putting their personal touch on their wardrobe?”

Let’s start with one of my favorite buddies, Julie Edwards.

My motivation to maintain my style is my passion for visually interesting and unconventional things. As a graphic designer, I live and breathe art and I usually tend to express that through my clothes and my surroundings. I am constantly inspired by my work, bloggers, unusual thrift finds and my very creative friends who push me in new directions. As far as creating my own uniqueness, my main motto is to be true to myself. It’s easy to get caught up in trends, be influenced by other bloggers, or feel the pressure of what people might think. However, I try my hardest to maintain my confidence in my clothing and home decor choices despite the objections of my friends and family! -Julie Edwards

I have been trying to come up with a perfect answer to my style challenges and it’s dawning on me that this just won’t be happening anytime soon – if ever (nuts). The inspiration here?  To be true to myself and not get caught up in what others may say.

So for today? Move on girl!  Be yourself.  No matter what you think people might think (because usually they don’t even think it…).

A bit of style, a bit of truth

The beautiful Amanda Johnson

I just had to link to this lovely post about style, self-confidence and grace written by Amanda Johnson over at Here’s Looking at Me Kid.  I’ve been needing a little extra inspiration lately – I just found it!

He Said, She Said: Bea Johnson

I used to think that each season, trendy clothes needed to be purchased in order to have “style”. I now believe that style is something that we (already) own, pair with flair and wear with dare (confidence). -Bea, The Zero Waste Home

He Said, She Said: Tanya Ilarde

Quite simply, style is being ourselves, and there is nothing original about that answer. But what I’ve realized is that style is a practice, and I must always be conscious and tenacious about it. It is not only a reflection but also a measure of how authentic I am living. –Tanya Ilarde

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