Does the dress make the woman or does the woman make the dress?
A dress can make a woman in a handful of ways. A dress can make me look more beautiful to the viewer. The right look can allow me to fit in with a certain group easier. The right combination of clothing can tell everyone who I am.
On the other hand, a woman can easily make the dress. My sister is a great example. Often she’ll wear an outfit that, without her in it, would give me reason to wrinkle my nose. But her charisma, her love of life, her willingness to risk with her wardrobe has the ability to completely transform her outfit into one I love!
The difference between the two? Dressing to make others happy or dressing to make myself happy. Which one am I aiming for?Thanks to Pinterest I can easily gather outfit ideas that I like and want to try out. I have and I’ve found that by copying a look, just because it works for someone else, doesn’t guarantee that it’s going to work for me. The biggest hurdle I have to get over is being consumed with what other people will think of me. With the burden of those thoughts, it doesn’t matter how great the look is, I will never completely “make the dress.”
If I can just move past caring what you and you and you think then I begin to make the look no matter what I have on!
What I am learning about style is this: the point isn’t to look good just to look good for anyone who might glance at me*. I mean if that is the case, I’m screwed. I currently do not have enough money or fashion sense to make the peeps happy.
The point is to be ME. To be brave enough to wear my opinion, who I am and what I love. And in doing so, thankyouverymuch sister, we’ll encourage one another to do the same. Forget finding the right dress to make me awesome (the dress is too darn expensive anyway). It’s who I AM that makes the dress. And that’s the way it should be.
I’ll be me, you be you.
*How the heck do we stop caring about what other people think? What is the deal with people-pleasing? It just sneaks right into my heart and takes over sometimes!